Real Women

There's really not much I could ever think to add to this. It's absolutely beautiful. I want to be able to write like that. Especially that end. Wow, does that end rock, or what? There's a part of me that complains that I already can write like that, and I think I understand that, but I certainly don't most of the time. This entire blog being a testament to that statement.

My mom's best friend jokes that I can't call myself a woman until I go to a spa and get a mud bath and massage. While I am warming up to the idea of a professional massage, I still do not want to submerge myself in glorified exfoliant and let it settle in all kinds of places. No thank you. What happens at the beach is bad enough. But her comments did get me thinking...when do I consider myself a woman.

I don't know about your moms, but mine made a huge fit when I started wearing a bra. And then a few years later when I hit another "womanly milestone." And when I had my first kiss and so on and so forth. But, in my eyes, none of that made me any closer to being a woman. I always felt adulthood was more important, more tangible. Now that I'm legally an adult, I think adulthood hasn't come yet. Using that way of thinking, maybe I've been a woman since birth. Which, legally speaking is true. So then how do you feel it?

I'm sure guys go through the same thing here. How do they know when to call themselves a man? Is it when they start shaving? Is it once they lose their v-card? How do you know? It's a personal identity issue, of sorts, I think. I'm sure two generations ago, anyone past the age of 18 would say they were a wo/man. And maybe a few generations before that, even as young as 15. But that does not necessarily mean that this way of thinking works for this day and age. Is this man or woman status dependent on independence from our parents? Is it inherently tied to what we consider adulthood?

I'm genuine and I'm female. But there is more to being a real woman than those two things. I think a big part of it is confidence and self-awareness. There's also the whole "comfortable in your own skin" factor, which comes and goes for a lot of women and I think it's a requirement for a real woman. What are some of these factors to you?